If a kid, tells you something, or shows you something, you don’t get mad or freak out and hit the phone with a sledgehammer. You tell them, “I’m proud of you. Thank you.” And then you tell them, “I’m sorry that happened, that you had to see that. And maybe we didn’t do something we could’ve.” Your kids see that vulnerability and that brokenness – that’s powerful.
“Am I gonna spend 30 minutes looking at my phone when I could just be hanging out with my kids playing Legos? I don’t want to play with Legos, but you know what? That’s what love looks like. Because I’m looking at the focus of my kids.”
“How am I doing when it comes to my relationship with Elise? And I’ve got my point that I want to say, and I’ve got my reasons, and I’m gonna interrupt and stop and try to do the thing that I think is right in the moment, when what I really need to do is yield to love.”